Most of the time human's doubt their future, hesitating to believe in themselves, their hopes and dreams. Fearing disappointment, many suspect the worst and plan for it. Doubts create negative energy. What you speak, think, feel or imagine will magnetize more of the same to you. When doubt goes missing from your mind, words, feelings and actions you can then attract certainty.

Doubts are easy to identify, they generally follow words like can't, because and but.

I really want a new house but I can't afford one right now.
I can't have a relationship because IÕm not attractive.
I really want a new job but I need more education.
My body isn't healthy because I'm too lazy to eat right and exercise.

One day my dear friend, Chris, began complaining to me about her job. Chris shared how tired she was of getting up at 5 am to put on makeup and high heels only to talk over the phone to clients and support staff on the East Coast and Europe who couldn't even see what she was wearing. She told me that she wanted to work from home wearing her sweats and no makeup. I said, "what's the problem"? Chris' eyes bulged in response to my carefree question and said, "I can't, what would people think, I can't tell my boss. I have a nice corner office I should go in".

So I asked her "what do you want"? This is a perfect response when someone is complaining. Remember to use this response when those in your life are complaining and of course with yourself when you are too.

Chris immediately switched gears from doubt to certainty, detailing a day at home working. She said, "I love to get up early and walk around the house and yard with my headset on. Without the fuss of a shower and makeup I could get to several international calls earlier. I could exercise during my lunch hour without the nag of changing and showering again and be more productive and happier."

I could feel Chris' peace and contentment with herself from sharing what she truly wanted versus complaining about her doubts. I encouraged her to only focus on what she wanted in a pleasant way rather than trying to resolve a problem. I reminded her... the universe doesn't care what you're thinking, feeling, or talking about. Its job is to match your vibration.

About a month later Chris called to tell me she now works mostly from home just as she wanted. She explained that as soon as she reminded herself that she too is a boss, she was able to make her decision. She went on to say that when she goes into the office she is excited and happy to be there. Chris said no one has complained or questioned her choice.

Chris then asked me about her limited belief, "what is it"? I told her that she is afraid to disappoint others. I pointed out the words and feelings that followed her can't statements. I told her she was worried about what others would think of her and perhaps her work performance. My friend said, "that's just silly, I'm one of the most productive people I know". She went on to say, "I do worry what others will think, I don't want to disappoint anyone". Exactly I said, if you are one of the most productive people you know, then why would you worry about disappointing anyone. That's the interesting part of limiting beliefs, they usually have no real value. They are not true beliefs only limiting beliefs based on fear.

Another dear friend of mine named Jim complained often about his lack of relationship. He had been single for years, no wonder with all the complaining he did. "There are no good single women left. I don't understand why I'm still single, I'm a great guy. Is being alone my lot in life?" I had told him for years, along with many of his other friends, that he needed to stop thinking, talking and feeling single. But he couldn't hear us. He just went on and on and so did his lack of relationship. Finally, one day Jim's 18-year-old daughter said, "Dad I just can't take it anymore. You have got to stop complaining. I can't listen to your despair any longer. Please try what your friends have suggested and stop complaining. Think of something else please"!

Jim heard his daughter's plea and focused on not complaining. Within four weeks he met someone he really liked, Molly. The two got along very well and dated for six months. When they parted it was as friends. Jim said it was one of the best relationships he ever had. He said that he and Molly enjoyed the same things and had a blast through most of their dating. Jim said it was easy to be himself around Molly. The ease helped him to quickly determine that the relationship, although a relief from being single, was not what he really wanted. Jim told me a few days after he and Molly stopped dating that he was shocked how quickly he met someone who was a potential partner after just four weeks of not complaining. He went on to say, "imagine if I started thinking, feeling and speaking positively about women and a future partnership"! I told Jim that confidence activates the art of allowing, ushering in the desired outcome.

For more information about getting what you want, I recommend reading "Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don't" by Michael J. Losier.

Joyful Blessings,
Marie

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