The dreaded and oh so needed act of forgiveness. We all want to forgive and be forgiven. In fact, we are thinking about it a little more than usual this time of year, so why is forgiveness so tricky?

The theory of forgiveness is confusing. Many feel that in order to forgive one must forget. To forget means to never again allow the unwanted situation back into your mind where it hurts you and tears at your soul. That's just silly. What we need is to allow new information in not close out information and certainly not forget. There are reasons that go beyond the situation, even past life reasons, why you must remember so that the situation will not repeat itself. Learning to remember the situation in humor, loving, and fun ways is the true path towards forgiveness.

The person we most need to forgive is ourselves! Whether you realize it or not, it is the self whom we are most mad at. Mad that we chose unhealthy:

Career paths
Partners
Parents
Health issues
Place to live
Trust in others above ourselves
Vacations that turned out lousy

All the while we blame others: bosses, partners, parents, children, siblings, airlines, car companies, realtors, neighbors…you get my drift!

Instead of shutting out the exasperating thing that has your emotions wrapped up in a knot, feel it, don't try to escape the discomfort. Look it straight in the eye and ask “what in this mess is mine, and how can I become aware of my part to release this pain.” This is the hardest part of forgiveness. Taking responsibility for the actions you chose.

Yes, you chose to come here and you chose your family, the region of the world you live in and everything else. I promise you, you had wonderful reasons for this choice, but you won't find them blaming others. You will discover your magnificence when you realize the universe is always on your side. Nothing is a mistake. All is working in perfect order towards your conscious awareness. Real forgiveness isn't about forgiving others it's about forgiving self. Forgiving you for not loving or trusting your magnificent being!

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